Fueling One's Ego

Everyone has his/her own view points on certain issues and matters. But when disagreements arises, if handled unappropriately, parties may get into arguments which normally doesnt end up quite right. Pride is at stake when there are 2 or more different views moving against each other, thus creating friction and eventually its up to the involved parties to resolve the matter accordingly. If the parties can come to consensus, a win-win situation, a win-lose occurs when 1 of the party backs out from his/her stand point. The lose-lose senario is when parties engage themselves in a yelling match which is totally undesirable.

Happenings which occured this few weeks let me realise how much pride and ego can affect conversational outcomes and interactivity. It takes 2 to clap, 1 to slap. If ever an individual doesnt wanna "play ball" or disagree in certain points, he or she could dish out a sharp cut to point out the displeasure or use more indirect ways to let the other party realise that he/she aint willing to follow the plans.

A person's ego is at stake when ever he or she finds out that they made a wrong judgement or mistake. Most of the time, individuals just to satisfy their own ego, will not spare to gun down their opponent if they are in the wrong. But how much can one achieve when u've injured the pride another person? Even if they are in the wrong, because of the wounded ego, they'll feel mistreated, bitter and unhappy about the outcome. The bitter pill can be really hard to swallow therefore, its always better to sweeten one's word in case we have to swallow our own words.

The carrot always yearn better results than the stick. A motivated person will be willing to go the extra mile to accomplish the task, unlike being pushed or threaten, count yourself lucky if ur plans werent sabotaged.

During a conversation with 1 of my relatives (those 1 year see 1 time), I felt rathered offended when queried upon getting myself a gf. My reply was those typical non-chalant, still have to study, but she rebounded with a "u not good enough" to get a girl answer. For a while, I nearly wanted to murder her. There are 2 particular characters I totally have no respect for in my family and one of them threaded on my toes. Oh well.... ppl get cheap thrills on spiking on others ego. Although it may seemed a harmless remark, it hit me quite badly. Never ever look down on me.... I'll prove you and myself wrong.

Patrix's ego can be really oversized at times, but today he proved he could keep his nerves la. Thats the way to go I guess... suppresses on un-necessary arguments and misunderstandings and chalk up good karma points.

bottom line: Even if you dont like a certain someone, try to look things from their point of view, if u still cant accept it, take the step back until necessary, chew them into pieces HAHA

pat

结果并不是最重要，而是要有争取过！

It aint over yet till the fat lady sings, but what happens eventually when the curtains are drawn and the verdict is passed? Given the revealation of the outcome would never be the positive one that you are looking for, how logical is it to continue venture upon it?

In this result oriented environment, the figures will eventually be in the red or black, Yes or No, Pass or Fail, Good or Bad. Thats how we are trained and taught since our younger days and also its how the rat race works too.

Alas, not everything can be judged and scaled accordingly. Different individuals emboss different emphasis on different areas.

I am a rational person. Never had I put myself into situations which the eventual outcome is a dead end. Yet recently I reminded myself of another trait of mine. Decisions are made instantanously and its various factors that clouds the judgements and impede on the smooth decision making process. The book I read, "The power of thinking, without thinking". It totally proved this point of mine which I realised ever since my younger days.

I know I am faced with a unfruitful end, yet the decision is made to press onwards. Aint it an irony? The rational part of me critisizes and condemn, but the emotional side motivates me towards doom. Really leaves me with laughs at times.

Call it hanging on "Hope", call it relentless determination, but I judge my actions as immature and totally irrational. That is the real me =) The bottom line:

结果并不是最重要，而是要有争取过!
不在乎天长地久，我宁愿根本没有。
No regrets.

Waiting for the bad news,

pat